Women - Get a diamond ring before your degree

June 20, 2014
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By Jasbir T. Singh |

Hello people, women can vote! In Canada, women secured the right to vote since 1916. That's 98 years already!

Hello people, more women than men have been enrolled at Canadian universities and colleges for over at least a decade! The latest 2012 data reveal that only 862,473 males were enrolled versus a whopping 1,116,735 women. That's 254,262 more women than men.

Hello people, women are now CEOs! Here's a 2011 listing of the top 100 most powerful women in Canada.

Hello people (this may shock you), there is NO income gap between women and men. You have been lied to for decades. When you compare apples to apples, i.e., the same amount of experience, and the same continuous years of work, women actually have slightly higher incomes than men.
But there have been empirical studies, going back for decades, showing that there is no such gap when the women and men are in the same occupation, with the same skills, experience, education, hours of work, and continuous years of full-time work.

Income differences between the sexes reflect the fact that women and men differ in all these things — and more. Young male doctors earn much more than young female doctors. But young male doctors work over 500 hours a year more than young female doctors. -- Thomas Sowell, Inequality Fallacies
In fact, studies reveal that women who have never married earn more than men who have never married; and women who have passed the child-bearing years had higher incomes than men. What this means is that gender bias and income disparity is a myth. There really isn't any discrimination against women with regards to income levels.

Hello women everywhere, you have my utmost respect. You have exceeded your own expectations, have surpassed men in academic achievement, have proven yourselves in the workforce, and have risen to the top of the corporate ladder. You have proven yourselves over and over again (not that you needed to in the first place, but I understand you wanted to feel equal to men in all respects). Now that your feminist movement has achieved everything that it first set out to do, congratulations.

Now please allow me to offer some friendly and constructive criticism on the price you paid to achieve all this.

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While you were putting in all those long hours doing everything that men did to pursue higher education and a career (ultimately to earn more money), you neglected to think about how you would find a man to marry and have children with before the expiry of your biological clock. To put it mildly, and it pains me to have to say this, but this delay has meant that you got older, and you are now perhaps not as attractive as you once were in your late teens and early twenties. As a result, your position in the marriage market has suffered. You now have more diplomas and money than men, but you are left single with only a pet to love and care for. This is a great price to pay. I know it isn't fair, but this is what often happens.

In hindsight, I think that feminism originally had some good goals, but it went about it entirely the wrong way by trying to compete with men. It has produced catastrophic results for children and society as a whole.

I think young women should step back and refocus all of their energy on finding a good man to marry, and start having children between the ages of 18 and 22. The ideal man would be seven years older, perhaps 25 to 29, out of college or university, and already working. I know it's not as simple as that, and there are many complexities to life, but at least an older man at this age has had some time to mature and become responsible. Think of the amount of effort that it takes to earn a diploma - that same effort or even a fraction of it could be spent on searching for the right man. I know that good men are hard to find these days, especially because many are still stuck as man-boys hooked on pornography, and living in their parents' basements, but don't let this discourage you. There are still some good and responsible men out there who want to get married. You just have to look in the right places.

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A woman between the ages of 18 and 22 would be very desirable to a man, not to mention that she would be much stronger and more physically capable in general to go through multiple pregnancies, with lots of energy to spare to raise young children. Fertility issues would be virtually non-existent, and there would be less complications affecting her health. I know that my own wife mentions how much easier it would have been had she given birth to our three beautiful children between the ages of 22 and 25 rather than between the ages of 32 and 35.

I'm not the only one with this idea. Even Penelope Trunk, founder of four hi-tech startups, advises:
  • Get pregnant at 25 if you want a high-powered career 
  • ...have kids when you are 25 so your kids will be grown when you are 45, because there will still be time to have a huge career...
  • This also means women will need to start dating men who are older than they are. This also seems like a good idea. Men, of course, love younger women.
It simply makes more sense for a woman to kick-off her post-secondary education and career after her youngest child has started going to school. This way she doesn't have to skip the most wonderful and fulfilling part of her life, nurturing and being fully devoted to her children during the first five or six years of their lives.

Perhaps feminists would be more at peace with themselves today had they done this. It's really not that difficult to start post-secondary education or a new career at age 30, 35, or even later these days. People do it all the time. I started all over again and completed my university undergraduate degree in software engineering (5-year coop program) at the age of 34. I'm 44 now, and have a permanent IT job that supports my family.

Another benefit of starting your education and career at around age 35 would be that you can stop competing against men right out of high school. With the fluidity of career changes across a person's life span, there is no reason why you can't rack up the same amount of experience and years of continuous work.

I am impressed with what you women have accomplished, but I think you would be more fulfilled and much happier if you didn't buy into the lie that post-secondary education and career has to be pursued right after high school. Just delay it until after marriage and raising your children. Your family will be blessed to have you as a stay at home wife and mother, building a safe and warm nest at home, and having the time to love and nurture everyone.

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If more women made this choice, children would grow up to be physically and psychologically healthier, and potentially less adversely affected by peer-orientation. Here's an excellent video about Dr. Gordon Neufeld's attachment theory, which explains how children really need to attach to adults rather than their peers. Lord knows that children would benefit more from attachment with their mothers (and fathers) first and foremost.

I really think that women should start recognizing that marriage and having children is something to be desired. It is a higher calling, and worth much more than a diploma and a job.

Here's a great example of a young couple who married at 19 and 21, and another one at 23 and 25. God bless them!


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